A Veterans Partner: What Survivors for Peace means to me
March 12, 2014 | admin
Conflict affects many people, not least the families and friends of those who give care and support. This is the view of one of those carers.
I am a carer to my partner who was diagnosed with Combat PTSD in 2009. We have had a traumatic five years with little help or treatment from our GP or the local hospital.
At times life has been particularly difficult for us both. My partner has had numerous stays in hospital and suicide attempts.
We first heard of the Peace Centre about four years ago and were invited to their ‘Families Living with Trauma Day’, part of the Survivors of Peace Programme. Until then everything we knew about the illness we lived with was self taught. I had never sat and talked to others and neither had my partner.
The day was enlighting. The atmosphere was so relaxed. At last there were like minded people with the same illness, but from very different circumstances. One thing in common is they understood how each other felt and shared their symptoms. I found people to talk to who understood how difficult it was for me at times, even though I am not one to look at my own difficulties. I was happy to muddle on by, although inside I was falling to bits.
The Peace Centre and their work has been inspirational to us both. We have attended numerous events and met new people each time. We learn new coping techniques from others and share how we feel. What we share is confidential and we feel confident with those we share with.
We have learnt so much more about the illness than anyone has ever given us. We now recognise triggers earlier than we did in the early days. I know when to ask for help before the situation becomes an emergency.
The staff are remarkable, understanding, supportive and keep in touch with us in between events. The Centre has been our lifeline.